It’s true that friends come in all forms. Recently, I was with a group of friends that I have known for years. When I say known, I am referring to an “on the surface” knowing. You know the basics about these individuals, but they aren’t the ones that you call first when you are in need. While having a conversation with them in a social setting, I became aware that I felt uncomfortable. It was like I couldn’t be myself. The more I investigate that feeling, I realized they just don’t get me. That ah-ha moment was pivotal to me because it allowed me to put things in perspective. Not everyone HAS to get me. Not everyone IS going to get me. The fact is, I can still have a relationship with them even if they are confused by my unique qualities.
My inner circle appreciates my quirks. They don’t look at me funny when I say that I don’t like people. Which is humorous since my work incorporates me meeting, dealing and forming relationships with people. They accept me for me.
So, why is it so hard to accept when people don’t get us? I think it goes back to being a child and wanting everyone to like us, accept us, and include us. Those intimate relationships are reserved for those people who take the time to know you and are invested in your well-being. So, while some individuals don’t understand me, it doesn’t mean I can’t have a relationship with them. It merely means that I will develop something unique and accept them exactly the way they are. Relationships are full of navigating, I just have to figure out what works for me.
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