Square Peg ● Round Hole







So, I saw an article on Facebook regarding the top ten reasons to dismiss a relationship.   It was intriguing to say the least.  Some resonated while others didn’t.    I will say that the majority of my reasons for discontinuing certain relationships aren’t about a difference of opinion regarding politics or parenting styles.  Simply put, they aren’t people that contribute to the relationship.

Look, I don’t want to sound judgmental, but if one isn’t authentic (I mean authentic in the sense you don’t live in an alternate reality) or real (in the sense of one not being faker than a faux mink coat) then I don’t waste my time.  I know that right now there is a lot of talk of spreading the kindness and treating others with compassion, but that crap stops when dealing with these characters.   Yes, I know I sound a tad like a negative nelly, but when you have spent years dealing with individuals who are so past the point of reality and they are only interested in pushing their own agenda, well then it is time to be voted of the island.

Here is what I do know.  The older I get, the less trash I can hold.  Sometimes the healthiest action we can take is letting go and moving forward.    Part of my emotional cleanse has been dismissing those relationships.  I deserve better.  You deserve better.   It isn’t mean to disengage.  Frankly, I don’t have the time to contribute to lifeless relationships.   Remember the movie, Weekend at Bernie’s?    Having empty relationships is like carrying around a lifeless body.   My time, life and generally well-being is based on honest, loving, authentic and empowering relationships.    If you don’t fit that criteria, then you will be dismissed.  Harsh, no. Freeing, yes.