Square Peg ● Round Hole







Well, I am back to being somewhat sane and much more tolerable.   Maybe there was something in the air as I have spoken to more than one person who has been feeling the same way.  Let’s move on to the topic I want to explore today which is a throw back to my spiritual cleanse that started over six months ago.  If you remember, it included reevaluating several relationships in my life and making the decision to disconnect.   The disconnection ruffled a few feathers, to say the least, but I have always stuck to my belief that if a relationship isn’t equally beneficial, why waste anymore time and energy?

While the change has bolstered my happiness and inspired me to really define what I am looking for in those close connections, there have been rumblings that some are still basking in the pool of discontent.   There was a blog recently posted about estrangements and how they affect more than just those in the relationship.  While I admit changing the dynamic of what used to be deep relationships can be alarming to some, moving forward is key.   In this blog, there were references to the person initiating the disconnect as a “bully”.   Bully is a strong word and shouldn’t be used in the context of describing someone changing a relationship in the spirit of self-care.   In fact, the blog itself had a victim tone that said to me the writer has yet to move on from whatever emotional upheaval they had experienced.

Look, my cleanse wasn’t a poke at others.  It was merely a move that needed to be made in an effort to be the best person I know I can be.  The process was intense and the decision was not flip or spontaneous. People are free to have their own relationships with anyone.  Just because my choice is to move on, doesn’t mean that have to agree with me nor does it mean others can’t have a meaningful relationships with those individuals.  It just doesn’t work for me. This isn’t a children’s playground.   Life involves change.   Although uncomfortable for some, I am soaking up the rewards for allowing myself to really be honest and to be courageous enough to take the plunge.     Life isn’t meant to being stagnant. Life is meant to be challenged.   When you remove the clutter, you make room for the blessings.