When I meet someone for the very first time, I tend to have on blinders because, as any typical individual, I want to see the person without flaws. Their kindness, pleasant attitude and friendliness are all shiny and new. Enamored, I shed a bit of my armor as do they. In many cases, the end result is a strong friendship built on trust, mutual respect, and admiration. Others, don’t work out that way.
Sometimes I feel like I should stand up and say, “Hi. My name is Allison and I’m an over-thinker” because I try to rationalize when a friendship hits the “this is weird and maybe I shouldn’t proceed with it” thought. In the past, I may have pretended that the bright, red flags dangling in my face were a beautiful fashion accessory. Here’s the deal…….I am not a miracle worker. The reality is that some people that come into my life aren’t going to mesh. They are the odd shaped puzzle piece that I continually try to shove into place. At some point, I need to acknowledge that they are the puzzle piece from the Eiffel Tower when I am currently engaged in the puzzle for the Statue of Liberty.
You see, after years of trying to figure out people and how they operate, I have decided to look at the situation with different eyes. The final observation is…….it isn’t me, it is them. If this were “The Bachelor”, there would be no red rose given. If this were “Survivor”, they would be voted off the island. So, I am assuming you get my gist. When I have to try too hard to make it work, it is time to abandon ship.