Square Peg ● Round Hole







I wasn’t always limited in my view of others.   It was a hobby of mine to reflect, inject, and completely immerse myself in other people’s business.  Quite possibly it was my addiction.   It took me a while to figure out that the obsession with other people’s lives was solely to avoid looking at my own.

I have this “hula hoop” that I imagine is surrounding me.   Anything outside of that is simply none of my concern.  Oh, but how I want it to be!  Sometimes I hear and see stuff so out of the realms of logic, that I instantly want to have an opinion.  Most days I can reign it in and look at what is going on with me that I am avoiding, but there are those times where I eat it up like a long lost cupcake.

Let’s be honest……gossiping is a little fun.    Don’t act like you don’t know what I mean.  It happens.  We can all fall into that trap.   I have noticed that euphoric feeling doesn’t last for long and I end up feeling a bit out of sorts after dishing the goods.   I used to think knowledge was power, but now I wish I didn’t know some of the things occupying my brain.

As my oldest reminds my mother all of the time…..focus! focus! focus!    Focus on yourself.    I remind myself everyday that I can barely deal with the stuff going on with me, why would I want someone else’s aggravation?     The alternative to tearing someone else down is to build them up.  If I can’t do that, then I need to keep my mouth closed and remember that we are all doing the best we can.   Some are just coping better than others.