Overplay

I am never too old to be impacted by a repeating message. Sometimes it takes me a while to acknowledge the universal truth. I assume positive intent with the people around me. I understand that we don’t always represent our best selves. I embrace that many people don’t have the tools or understanding that their actions aren’t aligning with my authenticity. Jeez. Some of my awareness has been dimmed by me making excuses for other people. People that have been embedded in my life for decades. Hurtful? Yes. The good news is that I can see the reality and move forward to relationships that aren’t one-sided. I have stopped overplaying my role. I have stopped overcompensating for other people’s limitations.

There are many relationships in my life I cherish. What I am finding is that many of those relationships were unbalanced. Calling only when you need something from me. Saying “you are family” but the actions don’t meet the sentiment. Never asking about the things going on in my life. Those are just a few examples of how I am developing an understanding of my part in these situations. I participated. Do I regret it? No. Life is a series of experiments and sometimes they are successful while other times, you might catch the room on fire. It is a process.

My word for this year has been intentional. That intention means owning my worth. I want to be of service. I want to show up for people, but I refuse to accept anything but the best in my relationships.

Treat people accordingly.

Remember “no” is a complete sentence.

Know your worth and don’t settle for less.