If any of you have a college graduate that is deep in the job search, this blog is for you. Our youngest has been home since May searching for his next chapter. The process is an impersonal journey met with rejection after rejection. It is a daunting task. In the meantime, I have appointed myself as a top-notch headhunter sending him job opportunities as I find them. Thank goodness he is open to that or at least he hasn’t told me to stop my efforts.
I haven’t dated in over 36 years, but from what I have been told, the dating game is similar to this career search. First, a person might swipe right which means they like you. This means that you get an interview. You meet. You connect. You get to know each other. You feel good about the interaction. Days flow into weeks and you hear nothing. You hesitate reaching out because you don’t want to appear needy, but there is that urge to know what happened. Then you formulate the perfect message and send it to them. You wait. And wait. Nothing. You, my friend, have been ghosted.
As a Mom, what can I do to ease the anxiety that surrounds my son? For me, I simply listen when he vents his frustrations. I toss out suggestions whether it is having his resume professionally done or encouraging him to use this space to add more skills to his resume. I also shower him with praise on how proud I am on how he is navigating this blip
There is something that I need to remember. While I am concerned about him finding his niche, I am grateful for this time with him. His helpfulness this summer has not gone unnoticed. And while he might not think that he is navigating this with grace, he is. It is important for our children to experience difficulties and learn how to walk through them. It is life on life’s terms.
When his frustration is palpable, my question is always the same. Do you want to be helped, hugged or heard? Most of the time, the response is he just wants to be heard. That is the key for ANY interaction. We all just want to be heard.
In the meantime, I have this AMAZING 25-year-old son looking for his next opportunity. Who wants to hire him?
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