Here is a heads up for those who roll your eyes or judge those parents, especially moms, who ooze over everything their kid does…stop being annoyed. For me, I gush over my kids accomplishments because it started as a habit early on. Having a child with special needs, we always were upbeat and full of pride over the tiniest accomplishments. A subtle smile, the first word, or his first time sitting up, were all reasons for celebration as we waited for those moments for what felt like an eternity. I compare it to waiting for paint to dry. Habits are hard to break. Frankly, this is a habit I don’t want to break.
I was brought up in a family full of love, but my perception was they were a little disappointed in the package that they received. Maybe they had unrealistic expectations. I was the average student who didn’t quite stand out in any regard. Now, I am not bashing anyone with this revelation, but I didn’t always feel like there was a level playing field. I kind of looked at it as climbing Mt. Everest, so I gave up and ate a doughnut instead.
Both of my boys bring different gifts to the table. That is what makes them unique and remarkable. I brag on them both…constantly….to the nausea of those around me. Maybe I overcompensate for what I felt was lacking when I was growing up or possibly, I am in such a habit of it, I do it without thinking. Truthfully, I don’t think there is anything wrong with building up our kids. We live in a world that is so under the “social media” eye that our kids are getting more negative feedback than positive. And, while I am being honest, my kids aren’t perfect. They screw up and hopefully learn from it. Every moment is a teachable one.
Here is another thought to ponder. Make an effort to share with other parents when you witness their child doing something kind, wonderful, amazing, etc. It is a validation, of sorts, that when we aren’t around, our kids aren’t complete asses.
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